Passion and Pain – understanding the drama of settlement


Marply is very good at collecting good people.
That said, a bunch of them showed up at Saturnus today, for a) birthday kisses , b) Pavlova cake, c) discussing problem solving strategies in the different homelands.
Countries involved: Poland, Germany, Sweden, Italy.

We found, there are different ways of handling an approaching problem.
You can

  • see a problem as such, quickly evaluate different solutions and apply the most efficient one (guess who?)
  • see a problem, make sure emotions stay where they belong, avoid any kind of fuzz and clean up the mess (very Swedish)
  • acknowledge the situation, blow it up to its maximum size by making everyone available a participant, to then go back to its original measure and quickly resolve the issue to everyones utter contentment
  • or you can go completely nuts over a wooden, cross-shaped memorial and arrange demonstrations around it outside the parliament building following a governmental trauma and during national grievance (a small part of the current ongoing in Poland, but this deserves a separate excursion).

I especially loved the Italian version, lively brought forward by E. and C., who just recently tied the knot – beautifully, in Rome and surrounded by a happy group of Italians and Swedes.
”It has to be complicated”, says E. (the Swede), otherwise no one is happy. It has to feel like you worked through it to your utmost capacity, it has to be tumultuous and there has to be drama.”
E. reacted as a good Swede will, suddenly finding himself with an unbearable suit – the night before his wedding. He looked at the mess and said: “Well, I guess we need to buy another one very quickly.”

The group of italian cousins began a collective lamentation, calling all relatives possessing a telephone, chewing out the poor shop assistant. E’s nordic appeasement strategy found not a single italian ear. He got to stand by (or sit by, on the back of a very fast Vespa) and watch the drama resolve into a beautiful conclusion.
A shop stayed open late, ten suits were solemnly presented at arrival, a tailor worked overnight the suit ready to pick up in his private livingroom just hours after the catastrophe.
”And then, everyone is so proud and happy to have solved the problem!” laughs C. ”It has to become big and dramatic, so you can feel even better when its fixed.”

The next time I get an Italian phone call that starts with: ”Julia, this is an emeeeergency!!!”, I might just take it a bit slow, hold back the German inside of me, sit back and enjoy the ride.


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